WHAT LOVE IS NOT

It is not true that everybody exchanges flowers, cards and gifts on Valentine Day.

There are many who weep over broke relationships and unloving partners.  One careful look at the world of relationships today will reveal that love is often confused with lust, only fair complexion is considered beauty, faithfulness is sometimes seen as slavish surrender to the partner.  Many women and young girls suffer because of such ideology prevailing over relationships.

There are also people who have greater love for their pets than their fellow beings at home, there are young people who would probably tell a hundred girls “you are the woman of my dreams” and there are people who love things and possess people instead of possessing things and loving people.

Simon the Pharisee invites Jesus for a big banquet and probably prides himself over having to dine with Jesus. But something strange happens at the table.  While sitting at the table a woman known to the public as a sinner, brings an alabaster flask of costly scented oil and weeping profusely, she begins wetting his feet with her tears, and then kissing it, she anoints his feet with the oil.  Simon fails to see the lady’s genuine desire to be forgiven, loved, affirmed and accepted and so he asks Jesus why he allowed a public sinner to touch him.

Jesus points out to artificial love of Simon “I entered your house; you gave me no water for my feet, but she has wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair.  You gave me no kiss, but from the time I came in she has not ceased to kiss my feet. You did not anoint my head with oil, but she has anointed my feet with ointment. Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—because she loved much. (Luke 7:36-48).

Jesus saw more love in the sincere expression of the lady than in the banquet that Simon had offered him.  Jesus saw in this lady a great need to be loved and affirmed because she was scorned and rejected by society.

Love’s best expression comes from the heart, not from things.  It is not the gift that matters but how much love the gift is given with.  It is not the sweet words on a greeting card that matters but the words translated in action.  It is not the fragrance of the flowers (for the fragrance soon vanishes) that matters, but the constancy in our love, it is not just being together that matters but forgiving each other.

Falling in love is not an achievement, staying in love is.  Getting married is not an achievement, remaining together in good times and bad is.  When you affirm, accept and forgive constantly, your love becomes complete.

 

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